I am so pissed off right now. I am a part of a group that is about “informed birth” and is also the “human milk 4 human babies” (the group that got me donor milk!) main page. I am there for the HM4HB aspect.
I just am so completely different then seemingly all of the women on there. They are anti-vaccine, pro-extended breastfeeding (3 years +), pro-homeschooling/”unschooling”, anti-circumcision, anti-hospital and anti-doctor. I am so completely opposite from them that it is driving me crazy.
I am leaving the page tomorrow, simply because of the judgement. I am EVIL because I support hospitals during labor/delivery. I was told to “watch my tone” because I spoke of hospitals being necessary in certain scenarios.
I would have been a PERFECT candidate for homebirth, but I am thankful every day that I gave birth in a hospital, because that hospital SAVED Noah’s life. The time spent waiting for the ambulance and traveling to the hospital would have killed him.
They go on and on about how some of their births didn’t go the way they wanted; they ended up with a cesarean, or the doctor was a bit too rough with them, or whatever. Guess what, you ended up with a healthy baby!
You may be “traumatized” by your birth, but seriously, get the eff over it. It’s been over 10 years for a few of them, and they are still pissed off because things didn’t go the way they wanted.
In the grande scheme of things, it doesn’t matter HOW that baby got out into the world, the only thing that matters is that it is HEALTHY.
I delivered vaginally, sweet…..who the eff cares? I am one of millions of women who have a vaginal birth every single day. I would gladly trade a scar across my belly for a healthy baby. We can get over birth trauma, some babies cannot.
One woman said that her birth “trauma” (cesarean) 16 years ago has caused attachment issues with that baby. Are you for real? That is all in your head! GET OVER IT. Your baby is fine, why do you need to complain about it? It’s like they are all a bunch of spoiled little teenagers whining because their mom didn’t get them the toy they wanted from the right store when they were 4 years old. You still got the toy, right? Then stop complaining about it.
I HATE people like this. I love HM4HB, but I hate those that take their views to the extreme so that people like myself feel like outsiders and also feel constantly attacked and belittled.
Give your head a shake and realize how AWESOME you have it. So you didn’t get the birth you wanted. Get over yourself, that perfectly healthy child you have doesn’t care how he got brought into the world, he’s just glad he’s there without any issues.